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Wondering where is the line between getting your child to listen and teaching them to be a people pleaser?
I hear from a lot of parents that they don't want to teach kids to listen using old-school parenting techniques because they don't want to teach them to be people pleasers.... but sometimes kids really do need to listen. In this video I talk through how we handle...
Is your partner wanting to stop gentle parenting because your kid tantrums more than other people’s?
Here's what I see happen often, and what I recommend that will get you the parenting outcomes you want much more quickly and with much less stress. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhLcsWxSRI4&feature=youtu.be If you know you'd like to purchase a four session...
Three ways we accidentally make it harder for kids to listen
Sometimes little things we do that we don't realise we're doing are making cooperation with our kids harder. In this video I talk through three tweaks to help your child listen without needing them to acquiesce. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCLgh_ls_dU If you'd...
You’re supporting your tantrumming child and another adult interrupts to say you’re doing it wrong
Let's talk about how to handle this moment that happens FAR too often. In this video I talk through how to best support your child when this happens and how to respond to the adult in a values aligned way. https://youtube.com/watch?v=1YyB7C-oOXg If you'd like my...
When your child tantrums and your partner says invalidating things here’s your plan
When your partner isn't on the same page with how to handle tantrums it can be worrying what messages your child is picking up about their feelings. Here's how to handle it in alignment with your values and ensure that your child deeply understands that their feelings...
If your child only hits you, focus here
When your child only hits you, they feel safe enough with you to not have to push their feelings down. The quickest solution isn't to stop the hitting, it's to build their emotional skills so they don't have to choose between lashing out and suppressing their...
At what age do children have the impulse control to stop themselves from hitting?
Let's talk about the age range we can expect impulse control from our kids and what to between now and then to help them stop hitting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuELo0f1LS8 If you'd like to learn the step by step approach to help your child handle their feelings...
Helping argumentative kids stop arguing every little thing without changing who they are
Let's talk about how to make life with your argumentative kid easier without impacting the skills that will serve them well in the long term. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kyz7aeuDtG0 If you'd like my help to make this shift book a free call at...
How to say no to your child and minimise the chance of a tantrum
If your child tantrums when you tell them no, watch this video to learn how to say no in a way that minimises the chance that they get dysregulated. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWK41wVxquY If you'd like my support to build these skills, book a free call at...
If your child only tantrums for your, here’s what to focus on
It's really common for gentle parents that their child sees them as their safe space and lets all their big feelings out only with them. While it's awesome that they feel so safe with you, it can be really draining to the point where you can't stay calm, or you're...
Has your child started tantrumming out of nowhere?
If your child has started tantrumming all of a sudden, let's talk about what you can do. In this video I talk you through: - how to reduce how often they tantrum - what to do when they tantrum, and - how to help them build the emotional awareness so they don't get...
How to help your child reduce how often they tantrum when you cannot help them in the moment
There are a bunch of reasons why we may not be able to help our kids when they are tantrumming. Maybe you're still dysregulated from the last tantrum, maybe you're not getting enough sleep, maybe tantrums are a sensory hell for you, or so many other reasons! There is...
Is it ever ok to give in to a tantrum?
Let's talk about a few of the times where it's actually a good idea to give in to a tantrum. I'll talk you through why each of these examples is not setting them up to have a permanent problem with emotional regulation, or expecting other people to acquiesce to them....
What to do when your child is tantrumming and everything you do is making it worse
When everything we do to try to help our tantrumming kids makes things worse it can be really unsettling because we want them to come to us with their big feelings when they're older. In this video I talk you through the six most common tweaks we need to make so that...
When your child says “I don’t love you” here’s what they actually need to hear from you
When we respond with "I'll always love you", "we'll always love each other even if we're angry", or anything responding to the words they're saying we're missing what they're really trying to communicate and leaving them feeling unheard. Here's how to respond with...
When your child tantrums do you end up dysregulated and say things you regret?
Let's talk about how to have compassion for yourself and take some steps to reduce the likelihood this will happen again. I promise not to recommend deep breaths, or prioritising alone time because if those worked, you'd already be doing them....
Can you stay calm for your child’s first seven tantrums of the day but by the eighth lose your cool?
Let's talk about how I help parents become a more reliable safe space for your child's big feelings. https://youtube.com/watch?v=VfJZ5VJYMHU To build your skills to help your child regulate during tantrums grab my free webinar Supporting Kids Through Tantrums. If...
Has your three and a half year old’s behaviour gone into overdrive overnight?
It's really common for three and half year olds to have a big escalation in emotions and behaviour. Let's talk about why this happens and what you can do to help your child through this stage, making it easier on them and you....