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Gentle parenting when the terrible twos come early

Gentle parenting when the terrible twos come early

If your child has the terrible twos ahead of schedule, let's talk about: - why this happens - how a set of gentle parenting skills will help more than gentle parenting scripts - what to do when your child can't use their words to help you understand what's going on...

When emotional regulation will stop kids hitting and when it won’t

When emotional regulation will stop kids hitting and when it won’t

Emotional regulation can be the solution to getting kids to stop hitting but sometimes it doesn't work. In this video I take you through which situations emotional regulation is helpful for, which situations it isn't going to help and what to do instead....

When to say “gentle hands” and when not to

When to say “gentle hands” and when not to

Does it feel like saying "gentle hands" is having no effect on your child? Let's talk about when saying "gentle hands" helps your child to stop hitting and when it actually slows down their learning process. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqUHaAa1d9k For my step by...

What to say when your child is in an intense tantrum

What to say when your child is in an intense tantrum

Wondering if you're jumping in too soon with emotional validation? Or maybe need to wait until they've calmed down to talk about the logic of the situation? In this video I take you through what not to say, what to say, and how to say it when your child is in the most...

The gentle parenting response to “I don’t want to”

The gentle parenting response to “I don’t want to”

Kids who are gentle parented are far more likely to say "I don't want to" because we've clearly communicated that what they want is important to us. Whether it's what they want to do, or their body autonomy or a million other tiny ways, we've given them the message...

Late to gentle parenting and wondering if your kids will ever listen?

Late to gentle parenting and wondering if your kids will ever listen?

Maybe you've only just discovered gentle parenting, or maybe you've only recently become convinced that this is aligned with your values.  Is it ever too late to get your child to listen with gentle parenting? No! But there are some shifts in mindset that are...

Share your calm? Ok, but… WHAT CALM?!

Share your calm? Ok, but… WHAT CALM?!

We have all heard the advice to share our calm with our kids but what if you don't have any? Let's talk about why we're not calm when our kids are overwhelmed and what to do about it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7OSp5YgpDU If you'd like the step by step of how to...

How to improve your parenting efficiently

How to improve your parenting efficiently

One of the differences of opinion I have with the general consensus on gentle parenting is that you'll never really be good at it. You should keep trying, and keep repairing, but you won't ever really be good at it. I don't think we should hold ourselves to...

Use your perfectionism to become a better parent EASILY!

Use your perfectionism to become a better parent EASILY!

I'm not saying be harder on yourself. I'm not saying hold yourself to unrealistic expectations. What I am saying is that when you say you want to be a better parent or even a perfect parent and people say you should lower your expectations... don't listen to them!...

Your Child is Not a Lettuce

Your Child is Not a Lettuce

Have you heard the Thich Nhat Hanh saying "When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well"? I actually agree with his whole quote, but I see this short version of the quote being misused in the...

Making Gentle Parenting Achievable for Single Parents

Making Gentle Parenting Achievable for Single Parents

Gentle parenting advice often makes a lot of assumptions that aren't applicable for single parents, like getting your partner to take over when you need a break. If you're a single parent feeling like you just can't be a gentle parent then this video is for you....

Is your permissiveness causing your child’s tantrums?

Is your permissiveness causing your child’s tantrums?

When our child is in a tantrum we can start to question ourselves and wonder whether it really IS our permissiveness that makes them tantrum. If we just tell ourselves "it's not the permissiveness" it's hard to stop the worry coming up during a tantrum, which...

When your child’s backchat is bothering your partner

When your child’s backchat is bothering your partner

I talk to a lot of parents on the progressive side of parenting who are not phased by backchat because they can see what they child is trying to communicate, or they see it as a red flag that the child needs something. Many of us have partners that are not as far...