Have you heard the Thich Nhat Hanh saying “When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well”?

I actually agree with his whole quote, but I see this short version of the quote being misused in the parenting spaces.

People use it to say if the child isn’t behaving as society expects, don’t blame the child…. which I agree with.

But then they go on to say that therefore it’s the parent’s fault or that the parents aren’t on the same page, which I believe can lead us to miss what’s really going on and/or reinforce some unhealthy patterns from our culture.

Watch this video for my full breakdown of why this lens CAN be helpful but can ALSO make things harder for you.

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