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How to not let your child’s tantrums trigger you
When you want to be holding space for your child's feelings but you get triggered it can feel so disheartening. In this video I take you through my approach to building your skill set and handling your triggers so that you can be a more reliable safe space for...
How to give your tantrumming child what they need without reinforcing the behaviour
When you know your child's feelings are valid so you want to give them what they need BUT you worry that this will reinforce that tantrums are the way to get what they need, this video is for you. I'll take you through the steps to reinforce healthy ways to get their...
You’ve stayed calm, you’ve explained rationally, they’re still tantrumming
How many times are we told that when our child tantrums they need us to stay calm and explain to them why they can't have what they want? But if that's what they need, then why are they still so emotionally overwhelmed that the tantrum continues? In this video I...
When to intervene and help a frustrated child and when not to
When our kids get frustrated by things like puzzles, putting on shoes or playing games when should we intervene and help and when should we let them calm down first? In this video I take you through when not to help, when to help and HOW to help....
Handling tantrums when they don’t want to get in the car
When our kids don't want to get in the car and then tantrum it can be really stressful to handle. In this video I take you through the step by step of what to do to make this easier on you and them. https://youtu.be/QTq1tpUHL2U If you'd like to improve your skills in...
How to stop having your own tantrum in response to theirs
If you would like to stop having your own tantrum when your child has one, this video is for you. I promise not to recommend deep breathing! https://youtu.be/4vd6-N2A8kc If you'd like to build these skill sets, join us in Confident, Connected Parenting. This course...
When the feelings books and the breathing techniques aren’t stopping the tantrums
If you've read all the feelings books with your child and when they're calm they are really good at the mindful breathing techniques but when the tantrum comes it doesn't help AT ALL... this video is for you. https://youtu.be/4881c2twD3M For the skills to help your...
When your child is tantrumming and the adults in the room aren’t having it
From invalidating or shaming your child's feelings to "educating" you on how to parent better, adults who don't think children should permitted to tantrum can be tricky to manage when your child is overwhelmed. In this video I take you through a reframe of what is...
Helping your child accept a no without tantrumming
Does a simple no cause your child to have a tantrum? In this video I take you through what to do to help your child be ok with a no. https://youtu.be/CNO8aWn7NTE If you'd like to build the skills to help them calm down when they do tantrum, grab my webinar Supporting...
Unpacking why you lose your cool with your kids’ tantrums so you can stop
When you want to make sure your parenting doesn't impact your child in the longer term, it can be frustrating when you get told to either just *not* lose your cool or that it's totally fine and everyone loses their cool. While we definitely want to be kind to...
Should you use consequences if your child is tantrumming to get what they want?
If you know your child is not emotionally overwhelmed, they're just tantrumming to get what they want, will consequences help them learn not to tantrum? https://youtube.com/watch?v=brTiwNY_wm4 For the steps to help your child be rational and work through the feelings,...
When toddlers tantrum because they can’t have something unsafe for them
When toddlers just don't understand that hot coffee or permanent markers aren't safe for them and they tantrum what can we do to help them? This video takes you through how to help them solve the underlying problem and what to do when there isn't a good solution....
How to stay calm for your child’s long tantrums
It can be so hard to stay calm when nothing is helping and it feels like the tantrum will never end. In this video I talk through the three strategies that will help build your endurance so you can stay calmer for longer. https://youtu.be/jwG-jdXqNLY If you'd like to...
The four skills kids need to avoid tantrums before they start
To be able to avoid tantrums before they start our kids need: - awareness of their emotions - the ability to recognise the need underneath the emotion - trust that they have a good chance of being able to get the need met - the capacity to mourn the times when they...
How to stop your triggers impacting your parenting when it’s too daunting to explore them
We don't need to be 100% healed to stop our triggers impacting our parenting. In this video I talk through how we can disconnect the trigger from what is happening in our parenting and how to avoid the trigger from coming up so you can make sure your triggers don't...
Why “It’s ok to be angry, it’s not ok to hit” isn’t stopping the hitting
Let's look at how our kids receive this message and why you can find yourself saying it over and over and the hitting keeps happening. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ldrMys9sK3Y If you need an approach to help your child stop hitting that validates their feelings and...
Your parenting isn’t causing your child to hit you
So many parents get told they wouldn't hit you if you were stricter with them. While you might know that this isn't true, it can be easy to doubt yourself when your child hits only you, not their other parent or siblings or friends. But even then, it's still not a...
When your partner addresses your child’s hitting by invalidating their feelings
It can be really tricky when we agree that our child needs to stop hitting but our partner doesn't see the value in addressing the behaviour without invalidating the feelings. https://youtu.be/ugZgMWontcI If you'd like more detail on the process to help your child...